When our loved ones depart…
Our lives are created of many cycles: big ones, small ones and the ones that last until we learn the lesson…
Death is also part of a cycle, a cycle with many names and meanings. The fact is that whenever any of our loved ones departs (this includes our pets), it hurts. It hurts in our heart and hurts in our whole body. The feeling of separation can sometimes be almost unbearable and it feels like we will never get through the pain. But we do, eventually…
Deep down most of us know and believe that there is more “out there” than just what we see with our eyes. We “know” that every body has a soul, which is timeless. We know deep down in our heart that the soul is ok and has returned back “home” where we all belong and we will return once we have completed our mission here. Our knowingness that we will see them again when we return “home” is a huge help during our grieving process.
A lot of people actually feel and see their loved ones around still a few weeks, months, sometimes even years after they have departed.
Grieving is a natural process of healing and processing the loss of our loved one. It is important that we do take time to grieve and stop making ourselves busy to avoid feeling the pain. It will not go away until we process it.
Grieving doesn’t mean we have to suffer. Suffering is a matter of the mind.
Grief is a matter of the heart and soul. Grieve your loss, allow it in, and spend time with it. Suffering is the optional part. Remember that you come into this world in the middle of the movie, and you leave in the middle; and so do the people you love. Love never dies, and spirit knows no loss.
Since your thinking shapes the experience of your loss, make your intention to have a tender, loving experience with grief. And keep in mind that a broken heart is an open heart.
Let your thinking manifest hope in your sorrow. Choose your thoughts wisely. Be kind to yourself, and reflect on the loss with love. If you’re grieving the death of a loved one, remember how you loved them when they were present; know that you can continue loving them in their absence. You can go from grief to peace.
“Endings are also beginnings. I encourage you to use the affirmations and teachings throughout You Can Heal Your Heart, while working through a loss and also in every aspect of your life. Pay attention to your thinking, and change it in areas where you cannot find peace. By doing so, you’ll bring more happiness into your life and to those around you.“ – by Louise L. Hay
When we suffer in grief we close our energy. And when our energy is closed we are unable to receive help, guidance, healing and messages from “the other side of the veil”.
There are a few ways to make our grieving process less painful:
- Wear gemstones like Apache Tears or Mangano Calcite close to your heart (in your bra, as a pendant or in a gemstone holder). Cleanse them often by smudging them with White Sage smudge stick. While smudging the stones, smudge your auric field as well.
- Write a letter to your departed loved one. Open up and write about everything that is in your heart and on your mind. Let the tears fall. Remember to breathe…
- Read books about incarnation and soul journeys to help you understand the cycle of life and death on this planet. One of the top selling books worldwide is Journey of the Souls.
- Ask the angels to assist you. Archangel Azriel is the one who can really help us with the grieving process. He also helps the souls to return “home”. All we need to do is ask.
Our departed loved ones are always just a thought away. There are no space or time limits “on the other side”. Only when we are incarnated on this planet we get to experience the feeling of separation and the illusion of the disconnection from the Spirit World.
If we feel our communication with the departed loved one is unclear or blocked, we can also try and work with a wonderful oracle cards called Talking to Heaven, created especially for opening our connection and communication with the Spirit World.
In the end all we need is a reasurance that they are ok and to tell them that we love them and miss them. We know deep down in our heart that we will met them again, but until then we need to move on with our earthly life and create what we intended to create and experience here, when we have decided as a soul to depart on this journey.
The Blue Budha